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I think I can. I think I can. Can I?
Your train ticket to the individual spiritual empowerment
We are all in some points of our lives First-Class-psychological impact on the tickets of trains of thought. Wahlder Michele (MS, LPC, CPC), a period of two survivors of cancer and Dallas, Texas-based Certified Coach of life and psychotherapists, thousands of people on the track of autonomy and a plan called 5 C of the printing process. The trip special challenges to:
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Clarification of the current mode – Where Are You Now honest?
Awareness of your current view is the first step at best, you can be sure. First clear on how to adjust your life with your values, talents and gifts shops is vitally important for your happiness. You need to know where you are, in order to know where you want to go.
You can clarify your current view on the basis of a review of eight lives. Be honest with ourselves about how you are satisfied with your profession, finance, health and well-being, relations between primary education, personal development, spirituality, environment, recreation, etc.
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Attach to your vision – Where do you want?
Example: A score of me, a teacher of yoga, decided that she was happy, education, but also to contribute to finding a biggest in the world. She was not satisfied with the quality of yoga clothing, was available to him and his colleagues and yogis. Your vision, it was, design and fun, hip and time, yoga clothing with eco-consciousness tissue.
You must be really clear about what you want. It is important that you connect to your vision more to himself, because you can not be created, unless you are at the same time is what it looks like. If you do not have a vision of where you want to go, or whatever you want, you’re probably not. Henrietta Klauser, and I quote: “If you connect to what you want, you take the next step to do and write.” If you do not have the slightest idea of what you want, as you want in lives of more happiness, the research begins by magazines and create a vision Board / collage of what attracts you. They should also consider, receive some outside perspective of a friend or a professional coach. I take my clients managed by an image that gives them an idea of what their future might look. There are also books that can help lead. Discover help assess your talents, divine gifts and abilities and then determine how you want to use more in the world. We can not help, as many others, if we do not know how we serve the best. So, think of him as selfish, self-knowledge itself, I suggest you take selfish to keep and not go back on top, you can be sure. Only in this way we can help the world and others.
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Create inspiration objectives – How do you get there?
Example: My client a plan to dismantle what must be done step by step – outside door. All this has been influenced by its goal of the Interior maintaining a measured pace and balance of life. Their objective was to assess the process.
You must create a plan and take specific steps for you where you are, wherever you want. While most people write objectives, they simply write a list of measures which, as a general rule, external actions. I think it’s more powerful to have internal and external objectives. An objective external, it is what you want. For example, you might think: “I hope that the new house.” An internal goal is increasingly on how. What will be followed by a new homeland benefit me and my family? Will it more fund regions, greater kitchen, so that together we can cook, so how I can appreciate what I have now this house until I How can I get that a pleasant experience and not as stressful? If you can not be grateful for what you have, then, if you create a new home, it is fortunately very short term for you. Then you’ve concentrated on the next external illusion happiness. For the year 2008, I propose, with at least three areas of life and I’ve already mentioned Jot down couldbenefit, as you more than your vision of life in each area. insert Next step in action toward your choice, with benefits completion appointment.
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Obstacles – how are you obstacles on the path?
We all have dreams and visions for our lives, but frankly, there are many things that can be on the way. The two main obstacles that I see with my clients are:
The inability to say NO-To bridge the gap of your current view on your vision besides, you have to make way for what “being”. If your life is full and you want to add more information about things that are really important in your life, you must begin the process of change in the conference room. They must say no to certain things in your life, so you can say yes to what is most important. Their mission destructive habits, attitudes and activities to make room for new ones.
A metaphor is a pipe irrigation water to a plant in bloom. The water in the tube is your power of life and the flowering of the plant, is this what you are trying to develop in your life. If the water pipe also has a leak, it will not be enough water or force of life and energy in order to get the desired result, or Vision (developing plants in full bloom). Examples might be leaking toxic friendships, unrealistic expectations, see too much television, eating sugar, negative expenditure model relationship with your spouse or work in a bid obsolete.
Example: A customer has a hurdle that their 8 – years, the daughter needs care and she was afraid they would not be able to be a good mother, plus Jumpstart successful new models. We solved this problem by making it clear in defining a good mother. Moreover, in practice, she needed help for kidnapping her daughter to school. Thus, she received from her husband, she in this area, they had time for this new venture.
Negative Self-Talk research shows that we are close to 50000 internal messages say that we are every day. We are constantly walking around conversations with us. And that is what we are saying is what makes the difference in the quality of our lives.
For example: I was in a Starbucks, and I saw this woman Spill their coffee, while a packet of sugar, and I heard, she said, “I am stupid. I can not believe I did. ”
Well, I just happen to hear, but it is an example of something that you say maybe internally that good. One might think: “Not much. I say things like this on me all the time. “Well, it’s a great thing that our subconscious hears these messages and acts on it, as if they were real. Do not tell everything to himself, you would not want someone else to tell you.
Think about itself as mental fuel. Now, imagine filling your car with dirty water. We all know that you would not be very far. Now, take the same car and fill it with the essence of high quality. They are more likely to achieve your goal. It is the same with people and the words we use. If the terms are negative and toxic, we Sputter with low energy consumption and our performance suffers. If our words are positive and tender, we are confident, energy, is to promote and better meet our objectives more quickly and easily. Here are some important things to note that if you already see the edge of the preparation process of Bad Self-talk:
B-belittling itself to speak. Stop saying: “I’m not good enough”. If your dream is a healthy self-confidence, which is one of the following examples, you receive more:
A.: “I’m so stupid. I can not believe I did. ”
B. “huées, mistakes happen.”
Can you see how the answer B is much more economical?
A – for awfulizing. Stop the prediction of a future filled with trouble, frightening and dwelling in the mind. If you dream of a career, you will love that move next closest to your vision:
A. “I am terribly on my interview, I can never find a job I like.”
B. “I will answer this question past employment at the next time, otherwise, and I’ll As it!” I know I have one day mission, I love it. ”
Can you see how places answer B, on the way of thinking of a successful work?
D – is misleading. That is, if you deceive oneself into thinking you are a victim, and that other people are responsible for your circumstances. If we want the relationship happy, the answers are below state aid for achieving this goal:
A.: “If my spouse would do more for home, then I would be happy.”
B.: “I can not and is now happy to choose, no matter what my spouse.”
Answer B is the right choice, you disagree?
– For shoulding – This is, if you own a quantity shoulds, Most, and should TOS, then do you not live up to unrealistic. Tell your dream of better conditions, it is also that:
A. “I would have eaten a salad at noon, that big ol ‘hamburger. I’m like a pig! ”
B.: “I could eat a salad, but I chose not to do so. Tomorrow, I will do decide to better health.
The second option is also much more inspiration, n’est-ce pas?
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Action Committees – Are you ready to do what happens?
The last step in the process C-5 is obliged to take action. How many times we have done all plans and they have never worn or lost motivation and exciting? Nobody ever something very alone. We all need encouragement and support of others, including accountability partners, stands ready to help maintain the vision of the person you want. In the previous example, for my clients, their biggest negative Self-Talk, as a good mother and a good businesswoman. Their thoughts were: “If I’m not going to pick up my child every day from school, I am a bad mother.” Instead, we have replaced by “picking up my child to school every day is not what I have done a good mother. I am, yes, a fabulous mother.
Below are the four stages, the action has been shown that your disposal to talk about himself negative:
• knowledge of your negative messages to the voices in his head
• Stop! They immediately stop it, if you are in each apartment negative thoughts
• Replace negative thoughts with a child alternatives
• Practice. It takes a commitment of time for a new model of negative thoughts to positive thoughts of a transition.
This interview was conducted by http://www.chinika.com. Click here to learn more about Michele’s C-5 process and their upcoming seminars, please call 214-823-LIFE (5433) or visit their website http://www.michelewahlder.com You will also find a “Being able to a work plan with free strategies on how a positive view on Leben.I think I can. I think I can. Can I?
Your mental train ticket to self-empowerment
We all find ourselves at certain points in our lives holding first class tickets to mental negative trains of thought. Wahlder Michele (MS, LPC, CPC), a two-time cancer survivor and Dallas, Texas-based Certified Life psychotherapist and coach, has thousands of people placed on the right track to self-empowerment through a plan she calls the Process 5 C . The journey to individuals challenges:
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Clarify View Current – Where are you now-honestly?
Conscious awareness of your current view is the first step in becoming the best you can be. Getting clear about how your life is aligned with your values, talents and unique gifts is vital to your happiness. You need to know where you are in order to learn where you want to go.
You can clarify your view current by completing a review of eight life areas. Be honest with yourself about how you are happy with your profession, finance, overall health and well-being, primary relationships, personal development, spirituality, environment, hobbies, etc.
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Connect With Your Highest Vision – Where do you want to be?
Example: A client of mine, a yoga instructor, decided she was happy teaching but wanted to contribute to the world on a larger level. She wasn’ta happy with the quality of the clothing yoga that was accessible to her and her fellow yogis. Her vision was to design and create fun, hip clothes and timeless yoga using eco-conscious fabrics.
You have to get really clear about what you want. It is crucial that you connect to your vision of yourself high because you can not create it unless you are clear about what it looks like. If you do not have a vision of where you want to go or what you want to be, you will most likely NOT get there. To quote Henrietta Klauser, “If you have a connection to what you want, take the next step and write it down.” If you have not any idea about what you want, or how you want to be in life to bring about greater happiness, begin looking through magazines and create a vision Board / collage of what attracts you. You may also want to consider getting outside perspective from a friend or a professional coach. I take my clients through a guided imagery that gives them a glimpse of what their future could look like. There are also books that can help guide you. Just get your help assessing talent, divine gifts and abilities and then determine how you want to use them more fully in the world. We do fully as help others, if we are not aware of how we can best serve. So instead of thinking of it as selfish to engage in knowing yourself better, I would suggest you consider it selfish to hold back and not be the best you can be. Only in this way, we can help the world and others.
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Create Inspiring Goals – How will you get there?
Example: My client created a tiered plan of what needed to happen step by step – outer goal. All of this was influenced by her goal of keeping inside a measured pace and a balanced life. Her goal was to enjoy the process.
You have to create a specific plan and take actions to get you from where you are now to where you want to be. When most people write goals, they just write a list of action steps, usually external actions. I believe it is to have more powerful inner and outer goals. An outer goal is what you want. For instance, you might think, “I want a new house. Inside goal is more focused on the make. How a new home will benefit me and my family? Will it offer more common gathering areas, a larger kitchen so that together we can cook, etc. How can I appreciate what I have until now I get this home? How can I make this a joyful experience rather than a stressful one? If you can not be grateful for what you have now, then when you get a new home, it will only create very short-term happiness for you. Then, you will be focused on the next external illusion of happiness. For 2008, I suggest taking at least three areas of the life I mentioned earlier jot down and couldbenefit how you from living your vision higher in each region. Next steps toward action add your desired achievements along with completion dates.
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Clear Obstacles – How will you remove obstacles in your way?
We all have dreams and visions for our life, but frankly, there are many things that can get in the way. The two most common obstacles I see with my clients are:
The inability say NO to-order to bridge the gap from your current highest view to your vision, you have to make room for what “Could Be”. If your life is full and you want to add more of the things that are truly important in your life, you should start the change process by making room first. You must say no to some things in your life, so you can say yes to what is most important. You have to give up the destructive habits, behaviors and activities to make room for new ones.
A metaphor would be a water hose watering a flowering plant. The water in the hose is your life force and the flowering plant is what you are trying to grow in your life. If the pants had leaks, it will not have enough water or life force / energy to reach its desired outcome or vision (the plant to grow into full bloom). Examples might include leaks of toxic friendships, unrealistic expectations, too much watching television, eating sugar, overspending negative relational patterns with your spouse or working on an outdated job.
Example: A customer’s here obstacle was that her 8 – year-old daughter needed for caring and she was afraid she would not be able to be a good mother more jumpstart a successful, new business. We remedied this issue by getting clear on the proper definition of a good mother. So, practically speaking, she needed help picking up her daughter from school. So she got her husband to assist her in this area so she would have time to create this new business.
Negative self-talk-shows we have about 50000 Research internal messages to say we ourselves daily. We are constantly walking around having conversations with ourselves. And it is what we say that makes all the difference in the overall quality of our lives.
Example: I was once in Starbucks, and I watched this woman spill her coffee while reaching for a sugar packet and I heard her say out loud, “I’m so stupid. I can not believe that I did.”
Now, I just happen to hear her, but this is an example of something you might as well say internally. You might think, “No big deal. I say things like this to myself all the time.” Well, IT IS A BIG DEAL as our subconscious hears these messages on them and acts if they were as real Do not say anything to yourself that you would not want someone else saying to you.
Think of self-talk like mental fuel. Now imagine filling your car with dirty water. We all know you would not get very far. Now, take that same car and fill it with high quality gasoline. You’ll most likely reach your destination. It is the same with people and the words we use. If the words are negative and toxic, we will sputter along with low energy and our performance suffers. If our words are positive and tender, we will feel confident, energized, encouraged and most likely will meet our goals faster and easier. Here are some key things to remember if you ever find yourself preparing to board the train of bad self-talk:
B-belittling stands for self-talk. Stop telling yourself, “I am not good enough.” If your dream is to have a healthy self-confidence, which of the following examples is more likely to get your there:
A. “I’m so stupid. I can not believe that I did. ”
B. “huées, mistakes happen.”
Can you see how the Answer B is much children?
A – stands for awfulizing. Stop predicting a future filled with gloom and doom and scary thoughts on dwelling. If you dream of obtaining a career you love, which of the following will move you closer to your vision:
A. “I did my interview terribly on, I’ll never find a job I like.”
B. “I will answer that’s past on employment and differently next time I will ace it! I know I will have one day I love the job.”
Can you see how Answer B places you in the mindset of a successful job search?
D – stands for deceiving. This is when you deceive yourself into thinking you are a victim, and that other people are to blame for your circumstances. If we want a happy relationship which will aid will of the answers below in achieving this goal:
A. “If only my spouse would do more around the house, then I would be happy.”
B. “I can and will choose happiness today, no matter what does my spouse.”
Answer B is the right choice, would not you agree?
– Stands for shoulding – This is when you give yourself a lot of shoulds, type, and ought TOS, then beat yourself up for not living up to unrealistic standards. Say your dream is to be in top physical condition, which will further that:
A. “I should have eaten a salad for lunch instead of that big ol ‘hamburger. I’m such a pig!”
B. “I could have eaten a salad, but I chose not to. Tomorrow I will make healthier choices.”
The second choice is so much more inspiring, do you think?
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Commit to Action – Are you willing to do what it takes?
The final step of the process is 5 C to commit to action. How many times have we all plans and made them never carried out, or excited and started off lost motivation? No one ever does anything great alone. We all need support and encouragement from others including an accountability partner who is willing to help hold the vision of the person you want to be. In the previous example of my client, her biggest negative self-talk was how to be a good mom and a good business woman. Her thoughts were, “If I do pick up my child from school every day, I am a bad mother.” Instead, we replaced it with, “picking up my child from school daily is not what makes me a good mother. I am, indeed, a fabulous mother.”
Here are the four action steps that have been proven to help you eliminate your self talk negative:
• Become aware of your negative voice messages to listen-in head
• Stop! You have to stop immediately if you find yourself dwelling on any negative thoughts
• Replace negative thoughts with another child
• Practice. It is a commitment of time in order to turn a pattern of negative thinking into a more positive train of thought.
This interview was referenced by http://www.chinika.com. To learn more about 5 C Michele’s Process and her upcoming seminars, please call 214-823-LIFE (5433), or visit her Web site at http://www.michelewahlder.com Once there, you will also be able to download a free binder containing strategies on how to obtain a positive outlook on life.Ich glaube, ich kann. Ich glaube, ich kann. Kann ich?
Ihre geistige Bahnfahrkarte zu Selbstermächtigung
Wir alle befinden uns in bestimmten Punkten in unserem Leben halten First-Class tickets zu negativen psychischen Züge of Denkens. Michele Wahlder (MS, LPC, CPC), eine Zeit Zwei-Überlebenden Krebs und Dallas, Texas-based Certified Life Coach und Psychotherapeut, hat Tausende von Menschen auf dem Weg zur richtigen Selbstermächtigung über einen Plan ruft die sie 5 C Prozessdruck. Die Reise Einzelpersonen Herausforderungen zu:
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Klarstellung of geltenden Ansicht – Where Are You Now-ehrlich?
Bewusstsein über Ihre aktuelle Ansicht ist der erste Schritt in zum besten können Sie sicher sein. Erste klar darüber, wie passt Ihr Leben mit Ihrer Werte, Talente Geschenke einzigartige und ist von entscheidender Bedeutung für dein Glück. Sie müssen wissen, wo Sie befinden sich, um zu erfahren, wo Sie wollen hin.
You can Klärung Ihrer aktuellen Ansicht nach Abschluss einer von acht Überprüfung Leben. Seien ehrlich Sie selbst mit sich darüber, wie Sie sind zufrieden mit Ihrem Beruf, Finanzen, Gesundheit und das allgemeine Wohlbefinden, Primar-Beziehungen, persönliche Entwicklung, Spiritualität, Umwelt, Hobbys usw.
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Verbinden Sie mit Ihren höchsten Vision – Wo möchten Sie within?
Beispiel: Ein Kunde von mir, ein Yoga-Lehrer, beschlossen sie war froh, Lehre, sondern wollte dazu beitragen, die Welt auf eine größere Ebene. Sie war nicht zufrieden mit der Qualität der Yoga-Kleidung, war zugänglich und ihr zu ihren Kolleginnen und Yogis. Ihre Vision war es, Design und Spaß, Hüft-und zeitlose Yoga-Kleidung mit Öko-Bewusstsein Gewebe.
Sie müssen sich wirklich klar darüber, was Sie wollen. Es ist wichtig, dass Sie eine Verbindung zu Ihren höchsten Vision von sich selbst, denn Sie können nicht erstellt werden, es sei denn, Sie sind im darüber Klaren, wie es aussieht. Wenn Sie über eine nicht davon Vision, wo Sie wollen hin oder was Sie wollen, werden Sie wahrscheinlich nicht erreichen. Ich zitiere Henrietta Klauser: “Wenn Sie eine Verbindung zu dem, was Sie wollen, nehmen Sie den nächsten Schritt tun und zu schreiben sie.” Wenn Sie nicht die geringste Ahnung, was the willst, oder wie Sie wollen im Leben mehr zu bringen Glück, Beginn der Suche und durch Zeitschriften erstellen Sie eine Vision Board / Collage von dem, was Sie anzieht. Sollten Sie auch prüfen, erhalte eine Perspektive außerhalb von einem oder einem Freund professionellen Trainer. Ich nehme meine Kunden durch eine geführte Bilder, die ihnen einen Eindruck von dem, was ihre Zukunft aussehen könnte. Es gibt auch Bücher, die helfen können, führen Sie. Holen Sie sich die Bewertung helfen, Ihre Talente, göttlichen Gaben Fähigkeiten und und dann bestimmen, wie verwenden Sie wollen sie stärker in die Welt. Wir können nicht helfen, andere als voll, wenn wissen wir nicht, wie wir am besten dienen kann. Anstatt also denke an ihn als egoistisch, sich auf sich selbst besser kennen, würde ich schlage vor, halten Sie es für egoistisch nicht zu halten und zurück zu den besten können Sie sicher sein. Nur auf diese Weise können wir helfen, die Welt und andere.
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Erstellen Sie Inspirierende Ziele – Wie werden Sie anreisen?
Beispiel: Mein Kunde einen gestaffelten Plan von dem, was geschehen muss step for Schritt – äußeren Tor. All dies war beeinflusst von ihrem inneren Beibehaltung der Ziel einer gemessenen Tempo ausgewogenes und ein Leben. Ihr Ziel war es, den Prozess genießen.
Müssen Sie einen Plan erstellen und spezifische Maßnahmen ergreifen, um Sie von wo Sie befinden sich gerade, wo Sie wollen. Wenn die meisten Menschen schreiben Ziele, schreiben sie einfach eine Liste von Maßnahmen vor, die in der Regel external Maßnahmen. Ich glaube, es ist zu haben mächtiger inneren äußeren und Ziele. Eine äußere Ziel ist es, was the willst. Beispielsweise denken Sie könnten: “Ich möchte, dass ein neues Haus.” Eine innere Ziel ist stärker auf das Wie. Wie wird sich eine neue Heimat zugute kommen und mir meiner Familie? Wird es gemeinsame Sammlung von mehr Gebieten, eine größere Küche, so dass wir können zusammen kochen, usw.? Wie kann ich zu schätzen, was haben ich jetzt bis ich dieses Haus? Wie kann ich erreichen, dass diese eine sehr erfreuliche Erfahrung und nicht als stressig? Wenn Sie nicht dankbar within für das, was haben Sie jetzt, dann bekommen, wenn Sie ein neues Zuhause, wird sie nur sehr kurzfristige Glück für Sie. Dann konzentrierten werden Sie sich auf die nächste external Illusion of Glücks. Für das Jahr 2008, Ich schlage vor, wobei mindestens Bereiche der drei Leben und ich bereits erwähnt Jot down couldbenefit, wie Sie aus Ihren höchsten Lebens-Vision, in jedem Bereich. Weiter, fügen Sie Aktion Schritte in Richtung Ihrer gewünschten Leistungen zusammen mit Fertigstellungstermine.
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Hindernisse – Wie werden Sie die Hindernisse auf dem Weg?
Wir haben alle Visionen Träume und für unser Leben, aber offen gesagt, gibt es viele Dinge, die kann man auf den Weg. Die beiden häufigsten Hindernisse sehe ich meinen Kunden mit sind:
Die Unfähigkeit zu sagen, NO-Um die Lücke aus Ihrer aktuellen Ansicht auf Ihren höchsten Vision, haben Sie, um Platz für das, was “sein könnte.” Wenn sich Ihr Leben ist voll und möchten Sie hinzufügen mehr über die Dinge, die wirklich wichtig in Ihrem Leben, sollten Sie den Veränderungsprozess beginnen, indem sie Raum. Sie müssen sagen, nein einige zu Ihrem Dinge in Leben, so sagen dass Sie können, ja zu dem, was am wichtigsten ist. Sie haben zur Aufgabe der zerstörerischen Gewohnheiten, Verhaltensweisen und Aktivitäten, um Platz für neue.
Eine Metapher wäre ein Wasserschlauch Bewässerung einer blühenden Pflanze. Das Wasser in den Schlauch ist dein Leben Kraft und der Blüte Pflanze ist das, was versuchen Sie zu wachsen in Ihrem Leben. Wenn das Wasser Schlauch Lecks hat, wird es nicht genug Wasser oder Kraft Leben und Energie, um ihr gewünschten Ergebnis oder Vision (wachsen die Pflanzen in voller Blüte). Beispiele eines Lecks könnten giftig Freundschaften, unrealistische Erwartungen, viel zu sehen Fernsehen, Zucker essen, Mehrausgaben, negative relationalen Muster mit Ihrem Ehepartner in einem oder arbeiten veralteten Angebot.
Beispiel: Ein Client Hindernis yesterday’s war, dass ihr 8 – jährige Tochter benötigt Pflege sie und hatte Angst, würden sie nicht in der Lage sein werden, eine gute Mutter more Jumpstart eine erfolgreiche, neue Geschäftsmodelle. Wir dieses Problem behoben, indem die ich klar in richtige Definition eines guten Mutter. Auch, praktisch gesehen, sie brauchte Hilfe bei ihrer Abholung Tochter von der Schule. So bekam sie ihren Mann zu unterstützen, ihr in diesem Bereich, so hätten sie Zeit, um diesen neuen Unternehmens.
Negative Self-Talk-Forschung zeigt, dass wir etwa 50000 internal Nachrichten sagen, dass wir uns täglich. Walking ständig Wir sind rund um Gespräche mit uns. Und es ist das, was wir sagen, das macht den Unterschied in der Qualität unseres Lebens.
Beispiel: Ich war einmal in Starbucks, und ich sah diese Frau Spill Kaffee ihr zu erreichen, während ein Päckchen Zucker, und ich sagen sie hörte laut, “ich bin so dumm. Ich kann nicht glauben, ich habe.”
Nun, ich habe gerade passiert, zu hören, dies aber ist ein Beispiel für etwas, das Sie vielleicht sagen, intern als gut. Man könnte denken: “Keine große Sache. Ich wise Dinge wie auf diese mich die ganze Zeit.” Nun, es ist wie eine große Sache unser Unterbewusstsein hört diese Nachrichten und sie auf wirkt, als sie wären echt. Sagen Sie nicht, alles an sich selbst, dass Sie möchte nicht, dass jemand anderes Ihnen sagen.
Denken Sie an Selbst-sprechen, wie psychische Brennstoff. Nun, vorstellen Füllung Ihr Auto mit schmutzigen Wasser. Wir alle wissen, dass Sie würde nicht sehr weit. Nun, nehmen Sie das gleiche Auto und fülle ihn mit hochwertigen Benzin. Sie werden am ehesten erreichen Ihr Ziel. Es ist das gleiche mit den Menschen und die Worte die wir benutzen. Wenn die Worte sind negativ und giftig, werden wir Sputter zusammen mit niedrigem Energieverbrauch und unsere Leistung leidet. Wenn unsere Worte sind positiv und zart, werden wir zuversichtlich, Energie, gefördert und wird am ehesten erfüllen unsere Ziele schneller und einfacher. Hier sind einige wichtige Dinge zu merken, wenn Sie jemals finden Sie auf der Vorbereitung Bord des Zuges von Bad Self-talk:
B-steht für belittling selbst sprechen. Stoppen Sie sagen: “Ich bin nicht gut genug.” Wenn Ihr Traum ist es, ein gesundes Selbstvertrauen, welche der folgenden Beispiele ist eher bekommen Sie Ihren es:
A.: “Ich bin so dumm. Ich kann nicht glauben, ich habe. ”
B. “Whoops, passieren Fehler.”
Kannst du sehen, wie die Antwort B ist weitaus schonender?
A – steht für awfulizing. Stoppen Sie die Vorhersage einer künftigen gefüllt mit trübe, und Wohnung in erschreckender Gedanken. Wenn Sie träumen von einer Karriere erhalten Sie die Liebe, welche der folgenden bewegen Sie näher an Ihre Vision:
A. “Ich habe furchtbar auf meinem Interview, ich werde es nie finden einen Job gefällt mir.”
B. “Ich werde diese Frage beantworten Vergangenheit in Beschäftigung beim nächsten Mal anders, und ich werde As it! Ich weiß, dass ich eines Tages haben die Aufgabe ich liebe. ”
Kannst du sehen, wie Antwort B Orte, die Sie in die Denkweise eines erfolgreichen Jobsuche?
D – steht für trügt. Dies ist, wenn Sie täuschen sich selbst in Denken Sie sind ein Opfer, und dass andere Menschen sind schuld für Ihre Umstände. Wenn wir wollen, dass eine glückliche Beziehung, die unterhalb der Antworten werden Beihilfen bei der Verwirklichung dieses Ziels:
A.: “Wenn mein Ehegatte würde nur mehr tun, um das Haus herum, dann wäre ich glücklich.”
B.: “Ich kann und wird heute Glück wählen, egal, was mein Ehepartner tut.”
Antwort B ist die richtige Wahl, würden Sie nicht einverstanden?
S – steht für shoulding – Dies ist, wenn Sie selbst eine Menge shoulds, Most, und sollte TOS, dann schlagen Sie sich nicht zu leben, bis zu unrealistisch. Sprich deinen Traum wird in Top-Kondition, der wird ferner, dass:
A. “Ich hätte einen Salat gegessen zu Mittag statt, dass große ol ‘Hamburger. Ich bin wie ein Schwein! ”
B.: “Ich hätte einen Salat gegessen, aber ich wählte nicht zu tun. Morgen werde ich machen, gesünder zu entscheiden.
Die zweite Wahl ist so viel mehr inspirierend, nicht wahr?
Fünf
Commit-Aktion – Sind Sie bereit zu tun, worauf es ankommt?
Der letzte Schritt der 5 C-Prozess ist zu verpflichten, zur Tat zu schreiten. Wie oft haben wir alle gemacht Pläne und trug sie nie, oder begann aufgeregt und Motivation verloren? Niemand hat jemals etwas große allein. Wir alle brauchen Ermutigung und Unterstützung von anderen, einschließlich einer Rechenschaftspflicht Partner, ist bereit zu helfen, halten Sie die Vision von der Person, die Sie wollen. Im vorigen Beispiel für meine Klienten, ihre größten negativen Self-Talk war, wie man eine gute Mutter und eine gute Business-Frau. Ihre Gedanken waren: “Wenn ich nicht abholen mein Kind jeden Tag von der Schule, ich bin eine schlechte Mutter.” Stattdessen haben wir es ersetzt mit “Picking up mein Kind von der Schule täglich ist nicht das, was macht mir eine gute Mutter. Ich bin, ja, eine fabelhafte Mutter. ”
Hier sind die vier Schritte, die Aktion wurde bewiesen, damit Sie Ihre Beseitigung negativer selbst sprechen:
• Kenntnis von Ihren negativen Nachrichten zu hören-Stimme im Kopf
• Stop! Sie haben sofort zu stoppen, wenn Sie sich in jeder Wohnung negativen Gedanken
• Ersetzen Sie negative Gedanken mit einer kinder Alternativen
• Practice. Es dauert eine Verpflichtung von Zeit, um wiederum ein Muster von negativen Gedanken in eine positivere Gedankengang.
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Your mental train ticket to self-empowerment
We all find ourselves at certain points in our lives holding first class tickets to negative mental trains of thought. Michele Wahlder (MS, LPC, PCC), a two-time cancer survivor and Dallas, Texas-based Certified Life Coach and Psychotherapist, has placed thousands of people on the right track to self-empowerment via a plan she calls the 5 C Process. The journey challenges individuals to:
One
Clarify Current View – Where are you now- honestly?
Conscious awareness of your current view is the first step in becoming the best you can be. Getting clear about how your life aligns with your values, talents and unique gifts is vital to your happiness. You need to know where you are in order to learn where you want to go.
You can clarify your current view by completing a review of eight life areas. Be honest with yourself about how happy are you with your profession, finances, health and overall well-being, primary relationships, personal development, spirituality, environment, hobbies, etc.
Two
Connect with Your Highest Vision – Where do you want to be?
Example: A client of mine, a yoga instructor, decided she was happy teaching but wanted to contribute to the world on a larger level. She wasn’t happy with the quality of the yoga clothing that was accessible to her and her fellow yogis. Her vision was to design and create fun, hip and timeless yoga clothes using eco-conscious fabrics.
You have to get really clear about what you want. It is crucial that you connect to your highest vision of yourself because you can’t create it unless you are clear about what it looks like. If you don’t have a vision of where you want to go or what you want to be, you will most likely NOT get there. To quote Henrietta Klauser, “If you have a connection to what you want, take the next step and write it down.” If you don’t have any idea about what you want, or how you want to be in life to bring about greater happiness, begin looking through magazines and create a Vision Board/Collage of what attracts you. You may also want to consider getting an outside perspective from a friend or a professional coach. I take my clients through a guided imagery that gives them a glimpse of what their future could look like. There are also books that can help guide you. Just get help assessing your talents, divine gifts and abilities and then determine how you want to use them more fully in the world. We can’t help others as fully, if we are not aware of how we can best serve. So instead of thinking of it as selfish to engage in knowing yourself better, I would suggest you consider it selfish to hold back and not be the best you can be. Only in this way, can we help the world and others.
Three
Create Inspiring Goals – How will you get there?
Example: My client created a tiered plan of what needed to happen step by step – outer goal. All of this was influenced by her inner goal of keeping a measured pace and a balanced life. Her goal was to enjoy the process.
You have to create a plan and take specific actions to get you from where you are now to where you want to be. When most people write goals, they just write a list of action steps, usually external actions. I believe it is more powerful to have inner and outer goals. An outer goal is what you want. For instance, you might think, “I want a new house”. An inner goal is more focused on the how. How will a new home benefit me and my family? Will it offer more common gathering areas, a larger kitchen so that we can cook together, etc.? How can I appreciate what I have now until I get this home? How can I make this a joyful experience rather than a stressful one? If you can not be grateful for what you have now, then when you get a new home, it will only create very short-term happiness for you. Then, you will be focused on the next external illusion of happiness. For 2008, I suggest taking at least three of the life areas I mentioned earlier and jot down how you couldbenefit from living your highest vision in each area. Next, add action steps toward your desired achievements along with completion dates.
Four
Clear Obstacles – How will you remove obstacles in your way?
We all have dreams and visions for our life, but frankly, there are many things that can get in the way. The two most common obstacles I see with my clients are:
The inability to say NO— In order to bridge the gap from your current view to your highest vision, you have to make room for what “Could Be”. If your life is full and you want to add more of the things that are truly important in your life, you should start the change process by making room first. You must say no to some things in your life, so you can say yes to what is most important. You have to give up the destructive habits, behaviors and activities to make room for new ones.
A metaphor would be a water hose watering a flowering plant. The water in the hose is your life force and the flowering plant is what you are trying to grow in your life. If the water hose has leaks, it will not have enough water or life force/energy to reach its desired outcome or vision (to grow the plant into full bloom). Examples of leaks might include toxic friendships, unrealistic expectations, watching too much television, eating sugar, overspending, negative relational patterns with your spouse or working on an outdated job.
Example: A client’s obstacle here was that her 8- year-old daughter needed caring for and she was afraid she wouldn’t be able to be a good mother plus jumpstart a successful, new business. We remedied this issue by getting clear on the proper definition of a good mother. Also, practically speaking, she needed help picking up her daughter from school. So she got her husband to assist her in this area so she would have time to create this new business.
Negative self-talk—Research shows we have approximately 50,000 internal messages we say to ourselves daily. We are constantly walking around having conversations with ourselves. And it is what we say that makes all the difference in the overall quality of our lives.
Example: I was once in Starbucks, and I watched this woman spill her coffee while reaching for a sugar packet and I heard her say out loud, “I’m so stupid. I can’t believe I did that.”
Now, I just happen to hear her, but this is an example of something you might say internally as well. You might think, “No big deal. I say things like this to myself all the time.” Well, IT IS A BIG DEAL as our subconscious hears these messages and acts on them as if they were real. Don’t say anything to yourself that you wouldn’t want someone else saying to you.
Think of self-talk like mental fuel. Now, imagine filling your car with dirty water. We all know you wouldn’t get very far. Now, take that same car and fill it with high quality gasoline. You’ll most likely reach your destination. It is the same with people and the words we use. If the words are negative and toxic, we will sputter along with low energy and our performance suffers. If our words are positive and tender, we will feel confident, energized, encouraged and will most likely meet our goals faster and easier. Here are some key things to remember if you ever find yourself preparing to board the train of BAD self-talk:
B– stands for belittling self-talk. Stop telling yourself, “I am not good enough.” If your dream is to have a healthy self-confidence, which of the following examples is more likely to get your there:
A. “I’m so stupid. I can’t believe I did that.”
B. “Whoops, mistakes happen.”
Can you see how the Answer B is much kinder?
A – stands for awfulizing. Stop predicting a future filled with gloom and doom, and dwelling on scary thoughts. If you dream of obtaining a career you love, which of the following will move you closer to your vision:
A. “I did terribly on my interview, I’ll never find a job I like.”
B. “I will answer that question on past employment differently next time and I will ace it! I know I will one day have the job I love.”
Can you see how Answer B places you in the mindset of a successful job search?
D – stands for deceiving. This is when you deceive yourself into thinking you are a victim, and that other people are to blame for your circumstances. If we want a happy relationship which will of the below responses will aid in achieving this goal:
A. “If my spouse would only do more around the house, then I would be happy.”
B. “I can and will choose happiness today, no matter what my spouse does.”
Answer B is the right choice, wouldn’t you agree?
S – stands for shoulding – This is when you give yourself a lot of shoulds, musts, and ought tos, then beat yourself up for not living up to unrealistic standards. Say your dream is to be in top physical condition, which will further that:
A. “I should have eaten a salad for lunch instead of that big ol’ hamburger. I’m such a pig!”
B. “I could have eaten a salad, but I chose not to. Tomorrow I will make healthier choices.”
The second choice is so much more inspiring, don’t you think?
Five
Commit to Action – Are you willing to do what it takes?
The final step of the 5 C Process is to commit to action. How many times have we all made plans and never carried them out, or started off excited and lost motivation? No one ever does anything great alone. We all need encouragement and support from others including an accountability partner who is willing to help hold the vision of the person you want to be. In the previous example of my client, her biggest negative self-talk was how to be a good mom and a good business woman. Her thoughts were, “If I don’t pick up my child every day from school, I am a bad mother.” Instead, we replaced it with, “Picking up my child from school daily is not what makes me a good mother. I am, indeed, a fabulous mother.”
Here are the four action steps that have been proven to help you eliminate your negative self talk:
• Become aware of your negative messages –listen to voice in head
• Stop! You have to stop immediately if you find yourself dwelling on any negative thoughts
• Replace negative thoughts with a kinder alternatives
• Practice. It takes a commitment of time in order to turn a pattern of negative thinking into a more positive train of thought.